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FINDING YOUR MOJO AGAIN BY ACCEPTING THE NEW NORMAL AND FACING YOUR COMPLACENCY IN LIFE

I had a conversation with a client the other day about her feeling complacent; having no MOJO to get up and back to her life as many of us are being asked to do after months of being hunkered down (as Leslie Jordan says) in our homes. That conversation prompted this BLOG!

Many years ago, I was interviewed by a nonprofit I was involved with, and they asked a question that changed my life. The question was: What is one of your biggest fears in your professional life? My answer was, “Being complacent in my professional and my personal life!”

COMPLACENT is defined by dictionary.com as “a feeling of quiet pleasure or security, often unaware of some potential danger, defect, or the like; self-satisfaction or smug satisfaction with an existing situation, condition, etc.” 

HAVE YOU EVER CONSIDERED YOURSELF COMPLACENT? My personal thought on being complacent is it is when a person has a lack of will or hope to rise above their situation. Also, a lack of MOJO…no passion….no sparkle! Some signs of complacency in your life might be having a lack of ambition, never trying anything new, predictability, you loathe learning new things, reject change, everything is a constant routine, and/or you are stuck or stagnant.

Complacency has been written about in psychology journals, medical articles regarding bad life choices and stress, corporate think tanks, and spiritual newsletters more than you can imagine. Magazines such as Forbes or periodicals such as Huffington Post and the Guardian address complacency often. Titles such as, “10 Signs of Complacency,” “Beating Complacency,” and “Did Complacency Ruin Your Marriage, Your Life, Your Career?” are everywhere on the internet right now.

I saw an article in the Huffington Post the other day called “Lockdown is bringing us closer to the people we love…. even when we’re miles apart.” Now this is amazing!  This article is implying that despite plenty of us having been indoors for long periods of time, we have found amazing new ways to connect with those we care about. In fact, we love the tighter bonds we have formed and the quality time we have spent with our friends and families despite our physical distancing. AND we want it to stay this way.  Personally, why don’t we keep this new way of being as “the new normal”?

Author Peter Levine suggested that “physical distancing is really what we are doing, rather than social distancing!” If anything, he suggests that we do not want to social distance, and that we NEED the closeness of family, friends, and support groups via a new normal wherein we are reaching through the air waves to let people we love know we love them. That is the social aspect. Of course, he is saying the appropriate physical (social) distancing as recommended by the CDC guidelines is the best way for our health and not spreading COVID-19. For me, personally, I have been physical distancing alone with my two furry friends. I cannot emphasize enough that, without the Zoom calls, texting, and FaceTime, this pandemic would have been deeply emotional for me being “alone-for real.” So, perhaps these new ways of being in the world is “THE NEW NORMAL.”   

And then, there is today… There are so many articles on being complacent addressing how we view our personal situation regarding COVID-19. And, more specifically to the point, I want to discuss what “The New Normal” is, and why are people so afraid of it?  We’ve heard this new mantra on news channels, news feeds, even some of the political figures are saying, “This COVID-19 situation, social distancing, and wearing masks is “THE NEW NORMAL.” At the same time, the pushback I have heard from clients, neighbors, and friends is, “I just want life to be the way it was…normal again.” But why? What’s wrong with “the new normal?” We got a lot from our “hunkering down” time…. right?

Some thoughts I have as to why “the new normal” makes us so uncomfortable is that we are definitely being asked to step out of our comfort zone. And, most definitely, the status quo has been removed. Remember the saying, “same ‘ole…. same ‘ole” implying we are just hanging, doing what we do, getting along in life? Well, guess what, NOT ANYMORE. Whatever we were doing professionally and personally has been yanked out from under us! We are being asked to raise the bar, allow new everything to emerge! We have all heard people who have emerged from horrific accidents, illnesses, divorce, etc. say that they would have NEVER MADE THE CHANGES IN THEIR LIVES IF THEY WERE NOT FORCED TO!   

Let me be clear, I am not downplaying any of the tragic deaths and horrific situations endured by many of our nurses, doctors, service workers, and others who are at high risk every day because of COVID-19. In fact, I am suggesting that by accepting “the new normal,” and questioning any of our complacent tendencies that holds back growth, creates a division that has been embedded in our psyche to create social and political discord, and/or any other healing pieces that do not allow us to love and heal would, in fact, NOT BE honoring the atrocities we have faced these past few months.  By paying attention to what needs to be changed by any and all of us is honoring those who have perished and putting them at the top of our deep honoring and respect for them. NOT IN VAIN! Accepting “the new normal” is a bold step for the good of all. We would be modeling the behavior necessary to help us heal as a global heart thread. After all, we are all connected energetically anyway! What you do for you…. you do for all of us! Perhaps it is time to hit the GLOBAL RESET BUTTON!

Jean Houston recently suggested, “This is our time. We can choose to surrender to fear or we can show the world what it means to be thoughtful, to be generous, and to be proactive in helping friends or strangers alike. Perhaps this is an initiation of sorts in which we are invited to step into a new experience of our interdependence and empathy.”

QUESTIONS FOR YOU TO JOURNAL AS TO YOU FINDING YOUR MOJO AGAIN THROUGH UNDERSTANDING COMPLACENCY AND EXPLORING “THE NEW NORMAL” IN OUR WORLD

  • Have you thought about what “the new normal” is for you? If so, what will that look like in your personal and professional life?
  • Are you complacent? While it seems harmless, can you see where being complacent can be a hindrance in any of the definitions above?
  • What are your thoughts about what Jean Houston said about surrendering to fear and showing up in more proactive ways? Does it matter that you do any of it?
  • What changes would you like to put in motion? 
  • Did you create new rituals that you want to continue?

Hi EVERYONE!

I was wondering what my very first BLOG to you would be….what would inspire me to begin!

Today was the day! The photos above are from April 20, 2016, taken in the Grand Canyon on my cross country drive from Santa Barbara, California (my home of 24 years), to St. Louis, Missouri. I was born and raised in STL until I moved to Los Angeles when I was 22. I lived in SoCal for 42 years until circumstances in my life brought me to the decision to move back to STL. 

This move was one of the biggest and most tumultuous undertakings I had ever done. Why tumultuous? Well, turns out the people I thought would be in my life, provide me with safety & security…..turned out not to be in my life at all. The biggest gifts I now see came from my letting go of what I thought my move to STL would look like….realizing my expectations were based on what I thought I needed and wanted. I discovered that being open to the gifts of new friendships and adventures have allowed magic to happen! At the same time, I strengthened my resilience muscle and found courage to keep going.

Some of my biggest a-ha moments came out of the deep pain of those disappointments; not to mention my fears, doubts & worries. ‘WTH?’ I thought. How could I be so off about who would be my support system here in STL? As I asked those questions over and over, I found answers through meditation, prayer, and my MOJO journal pages. So, those lessons from these experiences turned out to be my biggest allies as I leaned into the messages for my soul! Turns out that surrendering my need to know and to have control has allowed me to feel the fear and do it anyway. Persistence, courage and willingness to be in a discovery process with the unknown paid off.

So, by not running back to Santa Barbara – the familiar, what I thought was my safety net – has brought me the gift of knowing the Universe has my back….now and always. My morning practice of being still for 15 minutes in AM/PM helped me settle down, to not spiral out. This practice of sitting and listening to Spirit grounded me. Helped me pay attention to what matters; listening, discovering & witnessing my deepest soul’s desires and see what transpires. As I gave myself the gift of quiet time and experienced my disappointments, they began to lift. The disappointments became clearer and then I became clearer with what I wanted. I was then able to see more clearly and manifested a life that felt authentic and supported my hopes & dreams.   

QUESTIONS FOR YOU TO JOURNAL ON WHILE WE ARE ALL AT HOME:

What are your takeaways so far as to what has inspired you or disappointed you while being at home? What emotions come up over and over?

What are the most meaningful moments you discovered about your life, your patterns, your biggest fears during this time?

What discoveries about yourself during this time surprised you?  Why?

What are you grateful for while on this HomeStay time during COVID-19?

LOOKING FORWARD TO CONNECTING SOON!

The Journey Begins

Thanks for joining me!
Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton

LIGHT WORK by Autumn Skye

NURTURE, EXPLORE and TRANSFORM (NET) are all aspects of my work with women that equal the whole of our sacred journey in life.  It is my deepest yearning….to be a part of the NET process with other women…the NET translates into the rich weaving together the threads of our lives; our work, our dreams and our passions.  It’s what we do as women together; we hold that NET and be those threads FOR EACH OTHER….mirroring each others’ lives through love can lift us up to help  us feel strong, vibrant and alive.  We are each Light Workers in our own right.   This amazing artwork by Autumn Skye called this  piece “LIGHT WORK”.  

 

Once a month I will share  my musings on life and questions…..as well as my fears, doubts and worries.  Some call this a BLOG….I call it my MOJO PAGES.  They are not about teaching, but more about sharing!

I’d love to have you be a part of the MOJO PAGES by reading, wondering and discerning what I have to say; and is it true for you.  If not, why not.  I might even throw in a few questions I have and you can journal on them yourself.  Keep your MOJO RENEWAL JOURNAL close by!

NOW…..Breathe slowly….sit with Autumn’s magical, mystical NET of LIGHT WORK….see yourself as one of those women weaving the threads of the NET…..

Pace yourself….. with your hand over your heart to feel close to these pages I have written!  The words are always divinely inspired and Spirit driven!

NAMASTE’

Patricia